Celebrating a lifetime of love and friendship …

Yesterday I went to the wedding of one of my best friends from high school. It was a pretty darn perfect day in my opinion. The weather was gorgeous. The bride and groom were happy. And the reception was a blast! We all had so much fun. And I think the biggest reason why, is that this beautiful couple brought a lot of us together who hadn’t been in been in REAL contact, other than through social media and maybe an occasional event here and there, for a long time. It was so good to see everyone. It was like no time had passed at all. We danced and laughed and joked and talked and shared just like we did over 30 years ago. I think that if decades later you can feel as comfortable with your high school friends, as you did in high school, then you have definitely been blessed with special friendships. I know that I have been and I’m truly thankful.

Well, I hope you all have a day where you celebrate a lifetime of love and friendship!!!

The same but different …

My son George headed back to his university this morning. I absolutely love it when he is home. Before he graduated from high school we would have daily talks. At some point almost every afternoon I would make my way to his room and plop down on his couch for our talk. Out of all the things that I miss about this kid when he is at school, that is what I miss the most. Sure, we text, talk on the phone and FaceTime, but it’s not the same.

This holiday week was a busy one for us and although George and I found plenty of time to have our talks and hang out, I never made it to the couch where our talks usually took place. We laughed a little bit about my rigidity on this one since I literally talked his ear off all week. He is SO patient with me! HA! Anyway, we did have our talks this week and we spent lots of time together, but there is a part of me that will always remember a simpler time. A time when he was just a knock on the door away. I miss those days, but I am finding that lately I embrace the changes easier knowing how happy he is with his life. THIS could quite possibly be the most comforting thing I’ve felt as a mother. When your child is happy, nothing else seems to matter. At least that is how I feel.

This morning I got up and made one of George’s favorite breakfasts, Eggs Benedict. We were busy trying to get him out the door with packing and loading his car. But I just had to do it. I made my way to his room and plopped down on his couch. We talked briefly, but he completely understood that I needed a moment there. I had to claim a little of our past together in the midst of his beautiful NOW and on the verge of his incredible future. I can accept all the change that has happened and all the change coming, but the mom in me will still steal a glimpse of his childhood every chance I get.

Well, I hope you all have a day that is the same but different!!!

Just what I needed …

Last night we got to have dinner and a nice visit with my big kids. OK, not in person, but via FaceTime. Sid, George and Trevor, Sid’s boyfriend, met up with their dad last night who is working in Napa. They had dinner at one of our favorite places in Santa Rosa, Tex Wasabi’s. I was missing my big kids something awful yesterday and knowing that they were all getting together made it WORSE. I wanted Libs, Reese and I to be a part of it too. So much so that I seriously considered booking flights for the girls and I yesterday. Then Libs reminded me that she has a tennis match on Saturday and school in the morning. OH YEAH. Clearly missing my kids clouded my thinking, HA! Needless to say, we didn’t go. So I was feeling a bit down last night. But then they all started sending pictures (funny ones too) and FaceTimed us. I LOVED IT. I’ve said this before but it’s true. I’ve never appreciated technology more than I do now having kids in college. It really does help you stay connected. It makes the miles between us seem shorter. I’m not sure if it helps me miss them any less but things like FaceTime certainly have comforted me when all I want to do is spend some time with them. Last night was a great example of this. When we hung up I felt so much better. I still miss them terribly but for now, I’m satisfied.

Well, I hope you all have a day where you get what you needed!!!

The sweet sound of family …

I love Sunday mornings. I usually wake up before everyone else like usual but I’m not rushing to do anything or to go anywhere. I enjoy the silence of the house. And even more, the sounds of everyone eventually waking and coming to find me. I have grown to love this routine. When we travel it is somehow even better. There is even more calm and silence before they wake. There is no rushing at all. I relax. Drink my coffee. Write. There is also an excitement looming regarding whatever adventure we have planned for that day. Then, I wait and listen to hear them wake. It’s different when we travel. With a family as large as mine we usually require a suite or at least two rooms to accommodate all of us. Even with the space, the sounds of our Sunday are different. The closer proximity allows me to hear their breathing and movement that often reminds me of when my crew were babies. They are definitely not babies anymore. Sid and George are adults now. In September Libs will be turn 15 and Reese, 8. Sometimes I can’t believe how much time has passed since I first became a mom. It’s honestly mind-boggling. I have been blessed to be home with all of them since day one. I can honestly say that I haven’t missed much of their childhoods. I love when they tell me that too. They appreciate it just as much as I do. I know that because I haven’t missed much that it makes it much harder for me to let go. To have had the privilege of raising them and watch them grow up is the greatest gift God has ever given me. I love them so much. With all the change that is coming, George off to college for the first time and Sid returning to hers, I seem to cherish every moment I share with them collectively even more. They really are my world. And no matter how far away life and their dreams may take them, they will always be my babies. So, it may seem silly to some that I’ve grown to love the sounds of our lazy Sunday mornings, but for this mama, these sounds mean family.

Well, I hope you all have a day where you listen to the sweet sounds of your family!!!

An unexpected gift …

Last night we celebrated the life of a dear friend and sorority sister. It was an absolutely beautiful memorial service. She blessed the lives of so many. And she will be truly missed.

A few days ago my sorority sisters and I decided to go to dinner after the memorial service. We wanted extra time together to remember our sister, reminisce and reconnect. And that, we did. It was a such a special night.

Although I remain broken-hearted at the loss of my friend, I couldn’t help but look around the banquet room last night and say to her “you did this”. There were women there whom I haven’t seen or heard from in decades. Women who really mattered to me. Women who I loved. It was an incredible feeling being in their presence again.

My friend’s passing has been a great tragedy, but last night I was reminded that death is not the end of a relationship. It simply changes it to move beyond that which is worldly … and it’s beautiful. My friend may not have been with us physically last night but through her influence and inspiration she still managed to give her sorority sisters something precious. Togetherness.

Well, I hope you all have a day where you receive an unexpected gift!!!

I refuse to let go … 

For a few hours today we got to spend some time with Sidney in San Francisco. Unfortunately, things didn’t work out for her to spend the whole weekend with us but it was sure nice to get the time that we did with her. I think that I’ve always valued our time together but as my kids get older it seems like I cherish it even more. I know that time with all four of them together will get harder to pull off as their lives become more busy and life gets in the way. As sad as that makes me it also is exciting to see where life will take them. As their mother, I hope that wherever it may be that they are living out their hearts’ desire. Oh … and that airfare there is cheap because they aren’t getting rid of me that easily, HA!

Well, I hope you all have a day where you refuse to let go!!!

Taking some time for yourself … 

Going out with great friends. Spending time under the stars. And drinking wine. Mental note: I should try to do more of all three.

Well, I hope you all have a day where you take some time for yourself!!!