It’s been 24 years since my mom passed away. But I’m going into this weekend feeling pretty good. I’m not sure what that will mean come Sunday, but it’s honestly the first Mother’s Day I’ve looked forward to in … ever. It’s always a tough one. I remember the first one without her like it happened yesterday. It was awful and to be honest I struggle every year. I’m so thankful that my family understands and let’s me just feel it out. And this year I’m feeling pretty optimistic.
Well, I hope you all have a day where you think it’s all going to go beautifully!!!
I realized something about myself today. I have grown to have very little patience for people who are major doom and gloom-ers. I don’t mean people who are negative at times or even people who are pessimistic by nature. I mean people who go to extreme awful places in their thoughts and decide to share them with me to drive their point home. Like somehow recruiting me into their “kooky” is going to benefit anyone. These are people who make situations worse, not better. And they attempt disguise their thoughts as helpful or precautionary. Um. No. No they are not. Don’t get me wrong. I find worrying and anxiety to be beneficial at times. They get us thinking and help call us to action. But unwarranted worry is not helpful. It’s hurtful. And it’s exhausting. To watch someone engage in this type of behavior is downright unpleasant.
I have written before that I used to be a worrier in my early 20s. I worry now, but differently. It’s far more discerning than it was when I was younger. If I worry it’s got meaning. I also believe that my optimism has won out over fear. It takes precedence in even the most unpleasant situations I face. I somehow always manage to find some room for hope. I like that about myself. I like that life and its’ mishaps haven’t made me bitter or worrisome. Life is not easy. Heck, it can me down right awful at times! But I figure I’ve come this far without losing my hope and without assuming the worse. I don’t think I’ll be changing anytime soon. So the doom and gloom-ers can steer clear of me. I’ve got better things to do. Like deal with reality. Happily and hopefully.
Well, I hope you all have a day where you don’t dwell on WHAT IF!!!
I’ve always been a dreamer. I think it is one of my biggest flaws and one of my greatest blessings. Even when I was a young woman filled with anxiety I still managed to dream BIG. Now that I’m older many of my anxieties have fallen by the wayside which leaves lots of room for dreaming. I think that by allowing myself to dream I have had a better stronghold on hope. It really has worked for me in just about every situation I’ve been in. Even the really ugly ones. I think the ability to dream has also allowed me to maintain a certain measure of flexibility in my thoughts. If one thing doesn’t work out exactly the way I had hoped it can be easily modified. My thinking can be changed, and before I even realize it a new dream is in place. Some things have to change to bring us to the right place in our lives or to help us reach our goals, right?!?! From the bottom of my heart I believe that both God and the universe direct me in the way I need to go. I find so much comfort in that. Rigidity definitely has no place in this dreamer’s life. With all the twists and turns my life has taken I think rigidity would have been the end of my happiness. My soul would have deflated like a balloon decades ago. My spirit would have been crushed. Dreaming has kept me happy and hopeful. So … I guess I’ll just stick with it.
Well, I hope you all have a day where your head is in the clouds!!!
There are tons of quotes by very influential people advising us that we should ONLY surround ourselves with people who lift us up, believe in us and love us. I couldn’t agree more. I do my best to end relationships that are not balanced and healthy. But life doesn’t always allow for this in every situation. Unfortunately despite our best efforts we must deal with undesirable people almost every day. I have obviously battled this dilemma but creating my own little world. Ya know … LaLa Land. HA! As much as I don’t want to have to deal with difficult people or difficult situations, it’s a necessity sometimes. So I figure why not just try to laugh and smile and hope my way through all of it with the people I love most in the world. Being optimistic and always trying to see the positive side has served me well. It has also enabled me to find my tribe. The people I have come to call “The Genuines”. Those souls who speak to mine. They GET me. They treat me respectfully and ALWAYS have my back. We are equals and only want good for one another. They are loyal, honest and REAL. And I couldn’t be more grateful for them.
So yes, unfortunately we must deal with people and situations that we don’t want to. But having good people by your side sure makes it a whole lot easier … and fun (can’t forget the fun!)
Well, I hope you all have a day where you come up with a great plan!!!