It's getting close. REAL close. George's college move-in date is just next week. Again, this whole process is absolutely exciting and also utterly heartbreaking. How I view HOME is going to, once again, change. It is a change that does not come easily or without pain. At least not for me.
I have always had a great relationship with George. Conversations come easy. We are close. He knows how much I love him and how much I want for him. I couldn't be prouder of the man he has become. He is ready to take on the world. He knows that I believe that he has what it takes to achieve all
of his goals and more. To put it simply, we have talked it all out.
But there is one conversion I had not had with George yet. At least not until yesterday. And boy, it was a DOOZY.
Yesterday Facebook memories reminded me that I had the same conversation with Sidney two years ago just before she left for college. It was to date, the most painful and difficult conversation I had ever had as a parent. But it had to be done … for her. I had planned on having the same conversation with George this week so I decided that yesterday was as good a day as any to have it. Yes, I decided that yesterday was going to be THAT day, and I gave myself permission not to like any of it.
So yesterday I had, for the second time in my life, the hardest most difficult conversation I have ever had with my child. I looked at George and I told him that no matter where life took him, wherever I was, he would always have a home with me. That he would be welcomed back, loved, and cared for. And then I took a big breath, held back my tears (not very well) and told him that it was also OK if he chose to just make his return home a pit stop. Temporary. Short. Brief. I told him that if his life and his dreams lead him on long or frequent travels to far away places, that I would understand. I told him to enjoy every second of his journeys. To truly LIVE and LEARN. To explore the world and find where he fits. And most importantly, I told him to take chances because great things didn't happen to people who always played it "safe". And then I explained to him why, despite all the heartache, I felt this way. I told him that my love for him has allowed me to find great joy in knowing that he is chasing his dreams and becoming the man he has envisioned … even if all of it takes him away from me.
Well, I hope you all have a day where you let go!!!
I found out something today that I should have known for quite some time. Actually I found out something that I should have been TOLD years ago that really could have benefited someone that I love. And now I’m left wondering WHY I wasn’t told. Did the people who KNOW, not tell me? Or did the people who SHOULD have known NEVER know in the first place?
At this point, I have a choice. I can be angry and spend a whole lot of time and energy figuring out WHY this happened and WHO is responsible. OR, I can just be thankful and hopeful with my new found information. I’ll be honest, this is a tough one to let go of. But the person who benefits most from this new information deserves that I am discerning in my efforts so that we can move forward into a brighter future. So, for them I’m going to let it go.
Well, I hope you all have a day where you hold no grudges!!!
I absolutely love having all of my kids at home. The laughter and conversations. The loudness and busyness. Listening to them “catch up” with each other. I love it ALL! Being a parent who was only child I wanted so much so to have a home filled with lots of children. I have been blessed to live that dream.
This may sound silly, but as my kids where growing up it never occurred to me how much it would affect me when they left home to go to college. At minimum, I WAY underestimated those feelings. It has been terribly hard to be so far away from Sidney. I miss her very much when she is gone. And the worry! Let’s not even discuss THAT one! YIKES!
Anyway, I remember when Sid’s second semester of her senior year rolled around, my emotions where similar to that of a roller coaster on steroids. I was utterly shocked at myself. Even I didn’t know it could be THAT emotional, HA! And now, with G3 just a few weeks shy of graduating, I have been overwhelmed with all the same emotions. The same feelings of loss and elation all over again. I’m tearful one minute and excited the next. How is this possible?!?! Isn’t this process supposed to get easier?!?! Because it’s not, at least not for me. And that’s OK. These feelings remind me of just how blessed I am to love so deeply these wonderful beings I get to call my children. I am thankful that our close bonds have made these milestones emotionally charged. Love really does crazy things with your heart. I have written before, that as painful as this growing-up process is, I wouldn’t want it any other way. I have found no greater joy than loving my children and watching them plan to leave home to chase their dreams. It truly is beautiful.
I am so thankful that we are all together again. I know it’s not going to last very long. But for now, for the next few months while they are all home, I’m going to pretend that I don’t know that times like these will become fewer and farther between. I’m going to love them like always and relish in the joy I feel just being their mom … appreciating every precious second.
Well, I hope you all have day where you live lovingly in denial!!!
I got my two oldest, Sid and G3, off to their winter formal this evening. I am glad I survived, HA!
Teenagers are a kooky bunch. But I love mine beyond measure. Somehow they have managed to stay grounded good kids. The grief that they give me is nothing compared to what I could experience. And I am truly grateful.
These two have their own style. They don’t feel the need to conform to please their peers. And they genuinely operate straight from their hearts. Don’t get me wrong, they aren’t pushovers. They stand up for themselves and for what they feel is right. And trust me, if you did something that they didn’t like, you will certainly find out about it.
As the days pass and it gets closer to Sidney’s graduation day, I can’t help but look at both them and feel that time is passing far too quickly. I find myself wanting time to slow down. But then I ask myself, “Why?” They are great kids, who are turning into great adults. Why would I want to slow down watching them take on the world?!?!
Well … all I can say is that selfish LOVE drives my desires to stop time. But … unselfish LOVE also drives my desires to watch them grow into more of who they are meant to be … even if that means growing away from me. BIG SIGH.
Well, I hope you all had a day where you were willing to let go!!!